A few weeks ago, my husband and I went on a date with some old friends. We spent most of the evening playing catch up and reminiscing about old times, but what I thought at the moment was just friendly conversation has had the biggest impact on the type of mom I want to be.
You see, most of the time I know I have room for improvement in my parenting. I could be a little more patient, stress a little less, speak in a softer tone and let the little things go. But after this much needed conversation, I realized I was doing it all wrong.
After talking about our busy schedules and crazy toddlers at one point the well inspired advice was given. She said:more
My oldest (5) has been talking, non-stop, about how fab my Mother’s Day is going to be! All the food her and her brother (3) are going to make, the messes they’re going to clean, the nail place, leg massages…I mean, it sounds like I’m about to be S P O I L E D! …Except that they’re 5 and 3, and I don’t expect any of that from them. Truthfully, all I really want is 20 minutes to drink my coffee and slowly wake up. That’s it. Then I’d like to spend the rest of my day relaxing and hanging out with my family.
So all of this grand Mother’s Day planning had me wondering… What do they think Mother’s Day is? What does it mean to THEM!? So I sat down in our closet area (a common hang out spot for us) and asked my 5(R) and 3(L) year old some questions…
What does Mother's day mean to you?
L: It means I love you!
R: It means I really love Mother’s Day because it's all about the mothers and it's just a special day for them. They get whatever they want and that’s it.
I won't say my age. Really. Not happening. And I'm not even fully ripe yet! Yep , like grapes...ripening on a vine...to be turned in to delicious W I N E ....So once you reach WINE, you're, like, aged to perfection !
And btw, I'm not wine yet. I'm still grapes...ripening.
But to my real point, the one I sat down while my youngest plays in the bath, to write about.
I still feel 20!
I don't feel like I've been wife-ing and mom-ing as long as I have been! My 7 year wedding anniversary is this year and my kids are 5, 3 and 1...but I still feel 20, damn it!
Until I see a R E A L 20 year old staring at me in Target... then I get a little insecure (maybe a step down from insecure because I'm pretty damn secure but...insecure-ish) that she's looking at me ...the "mom" over there. That she's dreading actually being like me with my mom hair and my mom wardrobe and my mom posse which consists of the 5, 3 and 1 year old I have in tow.
I remember looking at moms back when I was 20 and...more
I’ve always considered myself very openminded, especially with how parents raise their children. It’s not my or anyone’s position to determine what is best for one’s family. Whether it is the cloth vs. disposable diaper club, the breastfeeding vs. formula club, vaccinated vs. unvaccinated club, or even the organic vs. my kid only eats goldfish club, we all have different ways of child rearing. Personally, I don’t subscribe to just one type of parenting style or mantra, yet even with a neutral position, I find myself quietly competing with other moms. How dumb! I really want to get along with, befriend, connect, and bond with them, yet instead, I’m sucked into scrolling (or is it trolling?) through social media feeds, feeling left out, and doubting my mom-ness with how kept up, crafty, scheduled, and utterly amazing others mothering is. Suddenly, I am envious, jealous, and judgmental towards my fellow mom.
While I could easily conclude by blaming our obsessions with celebrities, our phones, social media, and basic human nature, we all deserve more, especially our children,...more
O Say Can You Say…
We chose to read O Say Can You Say What’s The Weather Today for our Cat in the Hat craft but read whatever Seuss speaks to you, mama!
My 5 year old likes to do this because it’s WAY TOO EASY for her hahahaha and I like for my 3 year old to do this so that he can practice spelling his name! #Winning
We start by reading the book and then I tell them we’re going to make a Cat in the Hat… hat…All the cool mom points right HERE!!!more
My FAVORITE line …of all time (channeling my inner Seuss, don’t mind me)..A person’s a person no matter how small!
We kick off the craft time by reading the story together and talking about why people matter! Why everyone is important and how we can show, even strangers, kindness. I keep the discussion light and sweet because my babes are small but you do you, mama!more
According to the CDC, Molluscum Contagiosum is an infection caused by a poxvirus (molluscum contagiosum virus). The result of the infection is usually a benign, mild skin disease characterized by lesions (growths) that may appear anywhere on the body. Within 6-12 months, Molluscum contagiosum typically resolves (CDC , 2015).
Have your kids caught this??? Super annoying!! So far it’s graced us with its ugly presence on 2 of 3 of my kiddos (Can I put a super nasty eye roll here?!). It’s kind of a no-harm-no-foul deal except that it’s contagious….and annoying…and ugly.
No mama wants to see her precious baby riddled with “skin lesions” (OK, that’s a bit dramatic, it looks more like a butt-ton of tiny pimples, still totally gross!) I took my then 4 year old in to the ped when about 5 tiny,flesh colored bumps popped up on her booty cheek, 1 after the next. Ped said Molluscum Contagiosum and my mind literally went Ziggety Zaggety Ziggety Zoom! I mean...more
Let's talk some SNOT! You know, those slimy, messy BOOGERS our beautiful babes bless us with. Snot comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. But when should we be worried? What do all these snot colors mean?
Here is a quick little chart to help you understand your babe's boogies next time he or she has the sniffles and runny nose.
Some moms wake up extra early to go grocery shopping solo. Or they save that Target trip for late at night when the mini people are sleeping and Daddy is home to house sit.
I get it. A solo store trip sounds FAB! And I've done it a few times....and I don't think it's THAT amazing. I know, you probably think I'm nuts you solo-store-trippin' mama ....but hear me out.
I'm a major extrovert, like major. I used to cry when my hub would come home from work (this was before I discovered Stroller Strides and made mom friends) because I was just so damn happy to not be alone! (Laugh away, I do when I think about it,too)
When I go to the store (any store!) with my kids, people look at me, they smile, say hi, we even have full blown conversations. And not just about the kids either, about organic vs regular produce, why I'm putting $6 bread in my shopping cart, which carne asada flavor do you like best...ALL.KINDS.OF.CONVOS!
It's like I'm at a party mixing and mingling with people (yes, I'm aware that probably means I don't get out very often.).
Weekends - we all have them, even when we don't really notice the difference between our Wednesdays or Sundays when sleeping in or getting a full nights rest is nonexistent! For us, a simple weekend involves a little too much TV, random organizing, a few loads of laundry, and eating or throwing out all the week's leftovers. Last weekend after we did some house chores and laundry, we made a plan to (hopefully) accomplish three things: take the kids to the park, get dinner, and go to the store. My mind and body did not want to do any of the above (I really wanted to take advantage of a Sunday nap, while my husband did all the fun Dad things he gets too busy in the week to do)! With bitterness and mom-attitude, I picked myself up, grabbed some shades and flip-flops and headed out on one of the first warm, sunny days this year.
The sun was shining a little too warm in the lit spots, yet it was nice enough with a January breeze to tolerate playing frisbee, soccer, and watching my kids befriend their park community. After about 45 minutes, I suddenly started getting anxious...more